Yes, you read that right. And no, I’m not going feminist. We girls are powerful. Very powerful. We need to be aware of that, and use our power wisely.
We have the power to heal, but also to hurt.
We have the power to lift up, but also to tear down.
We have the power to build, but also to crush to powder.
First is the power of looks. Guys are ruled by sight much more than they would like to admit. It’s perfectly natural, but it can cause major problems and is something we need to take into consideration.
Even the most principled men are affected by it. When we show too much skin or wear tight fitting clothes, (leaving little to the imagination) they have trouble keeping their minds pure. We cause them to stumble and sin in their hearts when we are careless in the way we dress.
I talked to a guy once and was very shocked to hear him say that girls have a natural beauty that should be shared. Girls should wear the form fitting clothes, so that the beauty of their curves can be seen, and admired. He fell in immorality. Is it any wonder?
It is our duty dress modestly. We should never give occasion for any man to be able to let his mind wander after glancing at us. Sure, girls have been gifted with fine form (some do at least) and it was meant to be seen; but only by the man God has planned for each of us. And until the right guy comes along, it is to be kept hidden. Think of a lady’s form as a treasure meant for a specific man. If the treasure is out in the open for anyone to see, it wouldn’t be a treasure any more. And it won’t be as special to the man it was meant for.
If it is hidden, it is worth far more because he will be the first to see it and it’s all his. A hidden treasure will be valued higher than a used one. Scantily clad women cause many men to fall. Whereas modestly dressed women are an encouragement to the men around them. When we aren’t careful in our dress, the men that actually do try hard to keep their minds pure have nowhere to look. We ought to always be considerate of them and always be dressed in such a way that they have a safe place to look and not have to worry about getting an eye full.
Secondly, we have power with our words. So many men complain that women are always nagging and putting them down. And it’s true. We as women do not support the men in our lives with encouraging words. We don’t carefully select each word so as to be edifying at all times. Now, before you think that I’m saying we can’t point out when something is wrong, that’s not what I am referencing at all. We are duty bound to point out wrong when we see it. But it’s also our duty to point out wrong in a loving, considerate way.
There is never any place for nagging. A timely warning or admonition is one thing. Nagging constantly is another. We can encourage while “correcting” by simply stating the dangers we see in the paths they have chosen and kindly suggest what we see to be a better way. This can be done while never putting them down and making them feel less than who they are in Christ. We should always be honest with the men in our lives and never deceive them by not saying one thing when we mean another, just to avoid possible conflict. That’s going in an extreme the other way (which I am guilty of).
Thirdly, we have power in how we act. If we say one thing and do another, we aren’t truly loving those around us. We aren’t being edifying or helpful in any way. So many women can talk about modesty, and purity, but when you observe them, they aren’t modest. Sure, they may be in the way they dress, but they aren’t modest in how they act. They can talk about keeping themselves pure, but then don’t. Not only are we to avoid being like that, but we need to avoid keeping company with those like that.
In Proverbs 5:8-9 it says “remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: Lest thou give thine honor unto others, and thy years unto the cruel.” That wasn’t meant for men only. Girls who hang around strange women are influenced by them and become like them. And I know. I’ve been around them before and try as I might, some of their ways did rubbed off on me. It’s very unnerving to come home from visiting someone like that, and after trying to help them not to be like that, and have your brother comment “you’re just like her when you do that” – it’s very sobering and a bit scary.
In conclusion, we must realize that as women we have much power. Are we using it wisely? Are we building up, and edifying the men in our lives… and not just the men, but the other women around us? Or are we tearing them down, without even realizing it? We as women have the power to raise up a godly nation, or to tear it down and leave it in oblivion.
Sure, of guys and girls, we are the weaker vessel. But the men are largely swayed by how we conduct ourselves. How will we come out on judgement day? Yes, the men are the leaders and they make their own choices; but we have a huge influence on them. The way they lead and make choices are both greatly affected by our influence. Let us use our power for good and right. Let us be in God’s Word, seeking out His ways, and acting accordingly.
We have the Proverbs 31 woman as our example. Are we going to truly follow in her steps or just do her lip service while being, in reality, strange women which the Bible warns against? The fate of a nation rests on the choices we make. What will they be?
“Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.” Hebrews 12:1-3